WHY THIS LIFE IS SO HARD

Read More.. Realizing that time moves forward and we have to catch it will make us feel exhausted.
everyday we must do our routine go to work, pay all of your bill, meet clients,
pick up your children in their school, finish your deadline job, all of it will make us lost our time and we will not able to enjoy this life.

why this life is so hard? there are three indicators that make it happen to you.

1. Because we are trapped in our mind and people around us.

We don't realized that our mind had taken our freedom,we often think that we don't have anything to be proud of such as we are not smart, not handsome or beautiful, not rich, etc. we often think about it and these all happen in our mind.
Our negative mind bring us into these such situation that make us feel that everything we do will have no impact in our life.our negative mind control us to be sunk into our hardest part of life.our negative mind hypnotized us to be a person who don't have any motivation to live.
What about the people who lived around us? why they make our life is so hard? we have to start with "each individu has their own style".
it means that each of us has different point of view about this life. if they thing that we have different thought about life they will be our tough opponent.
they will do anything to stop what we thing is correct. whatever we do they will be our enemy. they will said, "it is not good, it is bad, don't do this,
don't do that, etc." so let us thing " whose life is it? our life or their life?". so the wise way to get our life is "easier" is just thing that we have a great talent. we are amazing creature, we can do anything with our life so no one can be sabotage our life. this is our life and we know our life better than the other.

2. Because we do nothing to change and fix our life.

"just let it flows" or "let by gone be by gone"....this statement are always in my mind when i have a big problems. but there is a mistake in here. it is the example: when we thing that life is so hard and we just only say "just let it flows" means that we do nothing with our life. this make our life seems so hard for us.
We have to realize that we can do many thing in our life, we have a lot of chance to make it better, we are the only person who responsible about our life and no one can replace our role in our life, but we have to remember one thing that "we will never have enough time to fix all of our problems." So right now, boost your courage, take your confident back, and do the best to change our life."there will be tomorrow for people who don't do the best today."

3. Because we live in the wicked world.

we have to realize that live is not fair, we live in the wicked world where everything could happen in this life so just prepare ourselves to any possibility in our life. we often forget about this fact. we will lost a priceless thing in this life if we do nothing and wait miracle to change our life.
don't wait your fortune but get it now and grab your fortune in your hand and never let it go.Life is a competition so we must take a risk and realized that to get our dreams we have to work harder than before. we have to thing any possibilities that what will happen next. so keep trying.."if we fail today it doesn't mean that we will fail tomorrow." so why we have to stop in the middle of our success just go ahead and get our dreams. "you will be the big loser if you give up now."

reference; you can change your life for success by aaron lumpkin.

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ZERO THEORY

Firstly, I would like to say that this theory is based on my observation among my students who often show

a tendency to do it. I really don't know whether this theory has already existed or discussed before by some experts.

I do not mean to be a plagiarist. I just want to share to the others.

What is Zero Theory?

Before I answer this questions, let me bring you into situations so just answer some questions below:

1. Did you feel that your life just like a circle and does not move forward?

2. Did you feel that your life is same with yesterday, today or even the next day?

3. Did you feel that when you do, learn, or study something you do not get any progress after you have done a lot of hard work with it?

4. Did you feel that in the past you have mastered something but when you try to do it now you cannot do well?

If your answer is "yes I did". It means that you are belong to someone who potentially did "ZERO THEORY"

Or if you are a teacher,this situation will give you a clear sample of what I call ZERO THEORY

This is the situation:

Yesterday, you taught your students and they understood what you were discussed that day. Every time you asked them a question, they could answer the question perfectly.

the following day, you come in your class then you start to check your students understanding about the previous materials with the same questions that you gave yesterday.

But you are surprise because they can't answer your questions even the simple one. This condition is I call "ZERO POINT"

So what is ZERO THEORY???

Zero Theory is a situation or a condition that shows our tendency to turn back to the first step (Zero Point) when we do, learn, or study something in our life.

It means that we often do over and over again the same process to get our achievement but it seems we turn back to our first steps (Zero Point) again without any progress as the final result.

So, you will know what happened next. Yes you are right " A FAILURE."

This failure happened because there is no progress with what we have done before. We did not realize it and continue our routines start from the zero point.

Who are potentially did Zero Theory?

These are persons who potentially have a tendency of The Zero Theory:

1. People who do not have motivation

Motivation is a desire to do something in our life. motivation is our energy to move our mind to do something.

When we do not have motivation we will find difficulties in getting our goal or even failing to get our goal.

we will not have any effort to get our goal because we do not have desire to do it.

nevertheless, this condition can stimulate our mind to be the passive one and do not have any struggle to get our goal.

so, if you do not have a motivation in your life you will have a condition what I call Zero point.

2. People who do not have an obvious goal.

An obvious goal in our life is a final value to get our success. A goal is like a map that will show you where you must go to the next places.

It is your best guide in your life. People who do not have a goal in their life is like a blind in a room with full of traps in it.

That is why in this life, we often doubt or do not know what to do next. We have a tendency to turn back to the same place or the same condition.

It means that we often turn back to the zero point in our life but we did not realize it. therefore, we will not get our target and goal in our life if we do not an obvious goal.

3. People who always do nothing and have negative opinion in their life .

Many people in this world want to be succeed but they only thing about it without any effort to get it.I said' "they just walk in the same place while the other run to move forward to get their goal."

in the other word, you are "THE LOSER". But, there is other reason why we are potentially did zero theory. It is about our mindset. We often set up our mind into the negative one.

We often afraid to take an action to get our goal because we often thing a big failure as the final result for every single effort that we do in our life.

So, it is the biggest mistake in our life. The negative opinion is like a great wall that will stop your way to get your goal. in addition, if we often have negative opinion in our life,

we will never start to do something and we only stand in the same place just like before. It means you are in the Zero Point area.

Reference: - Satria Hadi Lubis.2008.Total Motivation.PRO-YOU.Jogyakarta.

- Deny Richard.2002.Motivate to Win.Gramedia. Jakarta